Bearing the Burden of the Consequences of My Choices

Today I am reading in 1st Samuel that Saul is angry that the priests have helped David so he orders one of his men to strike them down. Some of them refused but Doeg the Edomite followed orders and killed all of the priests of God for helping David... also killing everyone in the town of Nob... infants were included....

One man was able to escape and fled to David... and what does David say? "I am responsible for the deaths of your family." He knew that Doeg would go to Saul and tell on the priests and so he claims responsibility for the slaughter... unbelievable....

How does one see the hand of God and trust Him in such a way as to accept the burden of one's choices with all of the consequences?

Am I willing to bear the pain of others that my own choices cause?